Monday, 27 December 2010

the breakup

27 december 2010


The last 6 months,

Africa

America

african american white girl

culture shock - walmart, white people, running water, wealth, consumerism, disgust

cancer

Africa - goodbyes, despair

America - sunken heart

friends

family

the most humiliating evening of my life

summer camp

doubt

tears

conflict

grad school?

confusion

heart break

loss

unfulfilled hugs & needs for affection

reaching for the unknown

hope, hopeless

pitiful

alaska

north carolina

inspiration

i'm gonna do what i want

panic

unsettled

anxious

familiar faces

friendship

christmas


I haven't written in a long time. Or I have, but not publicly - and nothing to the extent with which it once poured so naturally out of me.


I've experienced breakups before - in fact I think I've been going through one for the last 2 years. & this one, this most recent one I've been trudging through for the past 6 months, it shares all the same challenges that have come with previous disintegrating relationships;


I still look through our old photos together, the films made throughout

I've kept all of our love letters, all of my diary entries documenting our highs & lows

I keep in touch with our old friends for updates every now & then

I still see you in my dreams

I still shed tears

My heart still aches


and as I've learned through the mistakes of past breakups, I should just let it go. I need to snap out of the past & get on with the present. I need to move on, to take it for what it was, a great adventure of the heart and put it neatly into a shoe box - tuck it under my bed to explore years down the road when the power of time has washed away all waves of pain that overcome me now,


but I can't.


The reminders of this relationship are not only all around me, in treasures, time capsules of color, texture and scent that transport me to another world,


but the remnants of this relationship have transgressed my being, seeped into my spirit, becoming a part of who I am; the thoughts that escape my head à travers my lips, the perspective I have of the world through these eyes.


it's there

& I don't want that to fade.


I am a better person because of our time together,

a stronger person


and at times I doubt I'll ever love again.

I will try, but your warmth, your heart, your rhythm, your appreciation for everything beautiful & true


I'm sorry, mama Africa,

but I believe we will be reunited one day

& as pathetic as it may be,

I just can't let you go.


Saturday, 25 December 2010